A boy, who is young but not mature expects others to feel the same way when he says somebody "Don’t worry dear, i am always with you". When someone shows affection to him he feels good, but sometimes his affection is not required, not needed at all. Is this his fault? He who delivers free hugs, receives pain sometimes in exchange, is this deal justified on humanitarian ground. Probably not, he need to grow up, this is what people say. People who hurt you do not deserve to be treated well. This is the true meaning of "Growing Up".
God always believed to say, treat every human well, be humble to all, give wisely, think wisely, when they hurt you do not hurt back. If these are the thoughts of God, then we can say God himself has not grown up. There is always a contradiction in the Gods thought and Practicality of life. Look, nobody has seen God, the values and ethics were created by human beings only, then why do they refer these thoughts to God. Because serving to the mankind gives you a feeling to being connected to the eternal power of almighty, is it? Then why do we hurt back....?
Look i am not here to confuse you all people, or i m not turning to absolute spiritualism, i am just pointing to a simple thing. We are no machine, we are human beings and we behave the way a human is expected to behave, we are loaded with a function called "EMOTIONS" which is responsible for almost every act of us ranging from love, affection, hate, anger, pain, agony, disdain everything. So it’s quiet normal to get hurt when somebody hurt us, because everyone of us is having adrenal gland which secretes Adrenalin, which constricts blood vessel, which raises blood pressure, and ultimately causes hypertension, in which we do not even have any control. So it’s quiet normal if someone hurts us to get a sensation of hurting him back.
In every situation where you serve for mankind, you are suspected to keep a reason for that particular act. And believe you me it is quiet normal if you find yourself a victim of others while showing selflessly affection to them. Human is a social animal and is supposed to be selfish, so any act which goes against selfishness is also suspected. If a person does not hurts back when he gets hurt, and expects from others to feel the same way what he feels when somebody shows him affection. And describes Love as eternal power which connects human to almighty is considered immature? Why so? For him affection is important, regardless of the source from where he is getting. Still he needs to grow up, for what?
To become aggressive is human’s natural tendency, to be calm needs effort. To get hurt is again natural, to do not hurt back demand effort, to secrete aldosterone is autonomous, to relax is voluntary, to hold back is reflex action to let go demands will power, giving punishment makes you human being, forgivingness connects you to Almighty. GROWING UP is a continous process TOUGHENING UP is magical.
"Mature is a person who can tolerate the secreation of extra adrenaline from his glands without reacting, mature is a person who do not show the act of selfishness when it is most expected from him."
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